hi thanks for joining us today on amazing milestones in today's episode we will explain why you're sweet the sociable little baby can suddenly freak out when a stranger gets within eyeshot it's actually something that comes up a lot among my circle of mommy friends so I surf the net I checked some parenting forms and it appears that all babies at a certain point make strange but why and when and what does it all mean today I will be meeting with pediatrician dr. Sean pang and she is going to help unravel this mystery hello dr. Shah feng victor so I'm very excited to talk to you today because this week I went to my cousin's house who has a baby and the baby was smiling and everything was going really well in my sister's arms and then when I took the baby she immediately started to cry and I was so embarrassed I thought oh my god I'm not gonna be a good mom anyway so I wanted to ask you what is making strange making strange is when a baby 7 or 8 months of age usually but sometimes a little earlier sometimes a little later becomes apprehensive I mean terrified distressed anxious when they're in contact with someone they don't know okay so why do babies make strange and what's happening in their brain to prompt that kind of reaction okay I think the most important thing to remember is this is normal behavior babies are hardwired to look for comfort for food for love from caretakers and as they get older they start discriminating more and liking specific people and then around seven eight months of age they really don't like anyone other than their caretakers I think this behavior is reflected in the parents or the caretakers attitude too in the sense that when they are more relaxed when they have positive body language soft voice smiling towards the person that's being made strange to the baby reacts better to all right because the baby picks up on that exactly picks up on your physical and what does it mean if my baby doesn't make strange well babies are all different different personalities different way of interacting with people and some babies like new experiences they like new people they like new things and they will be very happy no matter who they go and meet so what if my baby doesn't outgrow the making strange phase I think the most important thing is for you to accept your baby's behaviors as the way that they need to interact with society some babies are more shy they need a lot more time to warm up to new situations they might be a little bit more shy when they get older but they still should be able to make a lot of friendships deep friendships because they take a longer time to invest in different people well that's comforting to know and you know I have to tell you I didn't know anything about making strange so I really appreciate the information now I know that my little cousins reaction doesn't mean that babies are afraid of me it's normal nothing to worry about thank you doctor shopping you're welcome so just remember next time you're in the grocery store and some kind shopper comes up to admire your baby if your little one suddenly starts to scream well rest assured it is a sign that they are on the right track and that's all for today as for me I am in my 36th week so I have a feeling that on our next episode I just may have a little co-host to introduce to you and I cannot wait for you to meet him or her so see you then you